Posted by Lisa Laree to Beer Lahai Roi
Facebook. Twitter. Blogspot. Wordpress. Pinterest. Forums. Skype.
The list could go on and on of ways we are instantly
connected to others via electronics and phone lines and wi-fi. It's a
good thing to be connected...right?
Certainly it's a
great way to share information and learn from others. I know my sewing
skills have increased dramatically over what they used to be largely
because of the online sewing community. And it's a wonderful way to
know what is going on...who needs prayer...where and when I can meet up
with friends...
But.
The truth is that we carry a teeny bit of responsibility for
everyone we are in contact with. The more we're in contact with them,
the more responsible we are to be a positive influence, to help bear
their burdens, to value them as fellow humans.
One of my favorite authors, Laura Ingalls Wilder, lived in a
world that only had instant communication with folks who were in the
same location. To communicate with folks more than just a few miles
away took great effort, whether it was a journey in a horse-drawn
sleigh, buried under blankets with heated rocks or a letter that was
written on both sides and crossways to squeeze every last thought into
the least possible paper, both to conserve paper and to keep the expense
of the postage at a minimum. The letter might take a month to six
weeks to get to its recipient.
Her world of contacts, until she reached adulthood and began writing, was very small.
And
even after she became well known for her writing, contact from the
those outside of her little community in the Ozarks was still limited to
hand written letters and the U S Post Office. Even then, Laura's world was small.
Now the internet has given us a very large world...social
networking yields instant contacts with hundreds; with blog sites and
such it's potentially thousands.
I recently read an article that said that people who had higher
social network interaction with folks tended to describe themselves as
less happy than people who spent less time on the site. I don't know if
that's because unhappy people are spending more time on the site trying
to fill a void, or if spending time on the site actually contributes to
unhappiness.
I know I've had my moments of misery when I've gone online and
stumbled upon photos of my social-network friends having a lovely time
at a party to which I was not invited. Without the internet, I'd've
known about the party...maybe, anyway...and shrugged it off. But it's
hard to shrug off so many photos of so many folks having a perfectly
lovely time without me. That little voice of the Enemy seizes
that opportunity big time. And those pictures have a way of resurfacing
with new tags or comments and suddenly the event that I forgot is all
in front of me, reminding me that I ...didn't make the cut. Wasn't
worth inviting. Wasn't wanted.
Whatever. You know what the Enemy whispers to you in similar situations.
But of course its impossible for me to be invited everywhere. I
couldn't go if I were. And I've wasted precious moments being hurt over
such things...when I have family that I haven't connected with in ages.
What's up with that??
But I've found I can't just drop off line. I have friends on the
internet...old school friends, singing group friends, sewing friends
that I've never met in real life but who are my friends
anyway....connections that would be painful to break. And despite my
intention to stay off Facebook for the fast, I keep finding myself
there. Because it's the communication link of choice with people with
whom I need to communicate.
So I'm asking myself...how many connections can a healthy human
maintain? Really? Are our face-to-face connections seriously weakened by
time and energy diverted to virtual connections; are the virtual
connections necessarily bad? Or is it really just another version of
the old party line? With the gossipy neighbor who'd listen in on
conversations just because she could?
These are the kinds of thought processes that I'm working
through. Should my internet involvement change permanently? Am I
trying to spread myself too thin...be connected to too many...?
Am I trying to fill a void with the internet that could be filled
so much more satisfyingly Elsewhere? Do I use the internet...blogging,
facebook, forums, etc...as way to substitute many shallow, minimally
responsible connections for the important ones in my own
house/family/neighborhood/city?
Or is this just my equivalent of Laura's yellow tablets, written
from edge to edge with no margins, because I must tell the story whether
or not anyone reads it?
I don't have answers...at least, not now, not yet...but these are the questions I'm asking.
And I'd written all that and was about to click 'Publish' when I realized I was about to post it to the sewing blog. I'd written it all in the wrong place.
There's probably a lesson in that...
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