We Remember....

 Posted by Lisa Laree to Beer Lahai Roi

So...I have been kinda incommunicado of late; we had an Event in northern Indiana ...gosh, it's been two weeks ago already...and I came home to a dumpster fire at work that was mostly my fault.  To be honest, I have just kinda of not pushed my brain any harder than recovery.

But I do need to address The Event before I resume Normal Blogging, because it is such a pivotal thing.

My precious mother in law came to the end of her life...having just turned 97...on December 12.  The decision was made to hold off on the memorial until after the holidays, so it was on January 31st that we all gathered...except for one young wife who could not get off of work...to, as my sister-in-law so aptly put it when we made the same trek home for my father-in-law's service two years earlier, 'to honor [her] and comfort one another.'

There is a lot that I could say about the trip itself...but I would like to talk about Her.   She was the polar opposite of the trope of the meddling mother-in-law.  She was engaging, encouraging, and always ready to help.  She was an amazing hostess; I remember one Christmas when unexpected guests arrived; she put on the coffee, pulled out tins of goodies she'd baked over the previous couple of weeks, set out the Royal Doulton Poinsettia china and - boom - instant party. 

She sang in the church choir, was one of the organizers for the Christmas bazaar her church hosted for many years, taught high school biology and, along with her hubby, who taught math and chemistry, was a senior class sponsor year after year.   

She loved to travel; my inlaws were chaperones on high school trips to Europe...and then traveled on tours themselves.  They  retired young, made good use of time share points and even rode the burros to the Grand Canyon floor.  

A couple of days after my hip surgery a year and half ago, she called to see how I was doing and let me know that she was praying for me.

At the end, she was more than ready to go; the struggles with her health wore her down but she never lost her mental acuity.  

Beyond what her passing means to the family...and I may or may not get into that at some point...I am going to miss her for herself.  I was blessed to have such a caring mother-in-law.